Author Archives: shelleylynn

“You cannot change the people around you, but you can change the people you chose to be around.” Unknown For most of my adult life I felt like I have taken care of people.  Given up attention for myself to focus on others.  Some needed my attention because they were learning.  Some needed my attentionContinue reading “The laws of attraction.”

I have found a love and passion this past year for writing that I did not know existed. I had always wanted to try but lacked the courage and motivation. I began writing – or rather journaling – in 2019. My hardest, most challenging year so far. Writing was my meditation. My release. A wayContinue reading “Finding happy.”

Merry Christmas Eve everyone. I hope this finds you all in good spirits. If it doesn’t… I get it. I really do. This holiday season is definitely a different one. Marking the end of a very different year. A year where the world just simply seemed to find chaos around every corner. The news channelsContinue reading “You don’t have to wear pants.”

“Vulnerability is not weakness. It is our greatest measure of courage.” Brene Brown Okay so we have talked about fear. We have talked about what we fear – rejection. Now let’s again, go a little deeper. What else do we fear? Vulnerability. Being vulnerable. Why? We are led to believe that vulnerability is weakness. AndContinue reading “The vulnerability mountain.”

“As I look back on my life I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.” Steve Maraboli Now that we have talked about fear, let’s look at it a little deeper. What do we fear the most? Opening ourselves up toContinue reading “The big ‘R’.”

“If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” Dale Carnegie Have you ever laid awake at night thinking about the conversation you should have had instead of the one you did? You know… the old ‘I should have said’ rerun. Well I have. Too manyContinue reading “A four letter word.”

“She remembered who she was and the game changed.” Lalah Deliah As you know, if you read my last blog, I recently turned 50. I received a birthday card that instructed me to write a letter to my 20 year old self and then to my 60 year old self. I thought, hmmm, might beContinue reading “Dear 20 year old self.”

“Do not grow old, no matter how long you live. Never cease to stand like curious children before the great mystery into which we were born.” Albert Einstein It’s my birthday. But not just any birthday. Today, I am 50. Yup. The big 5… 0… I am not afraid of that number. Quite the opposite.Continue reading “Half a century.”

“Bottom line: be yourself. It’s exhausting if you’re not. And if you get enough people to dislike you, you’ll be left with a new bunch of people who love you for who you really are.” James Smith We all want people to love us. Of course we do. But at what cost? What are youContinue reading “Misdiagnosed co-dependent.”

“When you accept yourself, you are freed from the burden of needing others to accept you. Don’t allow anyone or anything control, limit, repress, or discourage you from being your true self.” Steve Maraboli I’ve had an ‘aha’ moment. It came to me after writing a recent post. I struggled with that post. Firstly becauseContinue reading “No bad lessons.”